"Freedom is nothing but a chance to be better." (Albert Camus)
It belongs to you, and you are free to spend it however you wish.
Can you own this? Can you willingly recognize that all the plans you have to do were actually once choices you made?
I know you have to go to the 12U baseball tournament, you have to do laundry, or you may even have to go in to work.
But actually…you don’t. You, at some level, because of the prior commitments you signed yourself up for, volunteered for all these "have to"s. Which means you own these plans.
I’m not telling you to ditch everything and be selfish.
What I am doing is daring you to believe you actually have a choice as to how you spend your time.
You can own this and embrace your choices (and be pleasant and present), or you can blame everyone else for all your have-tos.