"The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit.” (Marcus Aurelius)
People ask me this all the time: “Okay, Hal, I get that I need to pause and stay calm; how do I do that?”
Here’s how: You make it your number one priority. The only way we humans can consistently pause in the heat of the moment is if we adopt the mindset that staying calm is the only thing that matters.
If you’re staying calm in order to gain better control of those you're leading, like your coworkers, or your children, it won’t work.
If you’re pausing in order to get someone to agree with you, like your spouse, it won’t work.
If you’re pausing for any other reason than to gain control of yourself, you will consistently fail.
So, here's the question: If you absolutely, positively had to find one way to keep yourself calm and steady, what would you do? You've probably done it before, so what was it?
Count to ten? Three deep breaths? Stretch your hamstrings? Close your eyes and do some positive imaging? Pray?
Whatever you would do if your life depended on it, that's how you stay calm & connected.
('Cos it does.)